2 - The Three Step System to your dream life

With all things in life, if we over complicate them, we are unlikely to achieve them. That is why I have reduced the process of transforming your life into three simple steps.

Take any area of your life, health, wealth, relationship etc. apply the three steps and off you go. With a bit of patience, persistence, and consistency, you will transform your life, the same way I have mine.

As I am talking to you, a fellow professional, you will recognise and understand these steps that we use in successful businesses daily:

Step 1 – Audit

Step 2 – Big Thinking

Step 3 – Strategy

You can make it as simple or as complicated as you like when you dive deep into each area of your life. Applying these three steps with some other useful tools and frameworks that I will share in upcoming blogs will help you to get clarity, build a strategy and make the change that you need to build your dream life.

Let’s go a little deeper…

Step 1 - Audit. When was the last time you took time, I mean some real quiet, quality time, to think about you? And your life?

One of my favourite tools for doing this is called the Wheel of Life, such a simple tool where you score each area of your life and recognise the areas that are lowest scoring or not serving you best. You can find a template and guide in my resources section HERE.

This is a great foundation to recognise the one or two areas that you want or need to focus on in the coming months.

Step 2 - Big Thinking. Society, your parents, friends, colleagues all live in a world of safety. “Go to school, go to university, get a good job, don’t take this risk or that risk”. If you were to switch off all the external noise and influence, if you were to imagine you had no limits, no financial constraints, what would you do in your life?

The next step is to 10 x that (I would recommend reading Grant Cardone’s 10X Mentor book if you need help here, it massively transformed my way of thinking and I will go deeper on this in another blog post coming soon!).

Remember you have one life. Just one. There is no second chance, so why not do the things you love, be with the people that make you happy and live somewhere that blows your mind every time you are there?

This is the time to break down limiting beliefs and can often be the hardest part for most people to get through on their own, but this is where a life coach can help!

Step 3 - Strategy. My favourite part! I have always loved conjuring up a plan, whether it is in business, a garden project or another area of my life I want to change, and then working backwards to build a step-by-step plan to achieve it.

And you can too.

Take one area that you scored fairly low on your life audit, and ask yourself, what would success look like? What would change this area of my life from a score of 3-4 to a 10? What needs to happen to get you from where you are today to where you want to be? And what action can you take today towards it? AND DO IT!

Every decision you make from now on should lead you closer to, and not further away from your goal.

I would like to share a personal example, that at the time was pretty radical for me and my family but because I had already done the work and I knew what I wanted, when the universe presented it to me on a plate, I was ready to say “yes”.

We had been living in a nice home, but it was in a busy area of town, and whilst convenient for work and a practical place it was also a bit small for my rapidly growing children. It had also been perfect to move my family from Salisbury to Bristol 18 months before, but was never a place that I wanted to stay long term.

At the end of 2023, my partner Jem (Jeremy) was diagnosed with cancer. A very scary and emotional time for us - thankfully he has since made a full recovery, and we appreciate every day so much more.

It was between two serious operations that a house had become available that met all of the criteria on my “what would a 10 look like” list when I had reviewed this aspect of my life. It was incredible, but Jem was seriously unwell.

The universe had put this beautiful house in front of us, and despite the stress of moving house, schools, an added commute etc. on top of Jem’s health, we made the decision to move because we knew that it was the house we wanted.

And goodness it paid off.

At 6am each morning we sit in bed enjoying our coffee overlooking a park and beautiful lake whilst watching the swans and geese bob merrily around. I am 100 meters away from the coastal path, which is perfect for running, yet conveniently 5 mins walk away from a lovely high street and shops. We have absolutely hit our 10.

I was ready. I did the work and knew what I was looking for. It was even on my vision board! If I had not done the inner work, then we would be kicking ourselves for missing a once in a lifetime opportunity.

Take some time to think about what YOU want in life. In love. In a home. In a career. In fun. In health. And when the universe puts it in front of you, you will be ready to say "yes".

With love,

Elsa x